A friend in need is a friend indeed, and we’ve all hit those low points where we need some help or reassurance, especially over the last 15 months or so. You may already have some ideas on how to cheer up that friend who really needs your help right now, but let’s provide you with a mix of things that may seem obvious, but with a little twist.
A Swathe of Colour
Bringing more colour into your life is not just a great way to to pick you up when you’re feeling a bit down in the dumps, but the benefits of gifting your friends colour, whether it’s in terms of a lovely bunch of flowers or a dynamic piece of art, colour can affect their emotions. Warm colours such as red and yellow evoke feelings of happiness. Energising colours such as bright yellow and red can make people feel more alert. So before you go to the florist for the most vibrant collection of flowers, think about what your friend really needs. Do they need energizing, or do they just need to be happier?
Talk to Them
Of course, we know that reaching out and having a conversation is going to help them get something off their chest, but it’s not going to be beneficial if you come to the conversation with a negative frame of mind. It’s worth remembering the importance of positive words because studies show this use of “priming,” where you incorporate upbeat words like “joy” into a conversation can help them to feel the words you are saying. Help them to reframe the words they are using, and by peppering the conversation with more positive words, this could have a subconscious effect on their frame of mind.
Challenge Them to Some Puzzles
Crossword puzzles and sudoku boost cognitive function. If your friend is feeling sad, this is a double whammy of distracting them from their troubles, but also removes that feeling that comes with sadness. Our brains love to solve puzzles. When we complete a puzzle, there is that sense of achievement, and it is a wonderful thing to do, especially if we’ve got a friend that’s far away.
Many people have struggled to laugh over the last year or so, but it is one of the best ways to stimulate endorphins. If that friend of yours has a wicked sense of humour, but they’ve been retreating into their shell recently, this gives you licence to go wild! Sometimes, we can look back on who we were, and miss certain aspects of our lives, and humour can take us right back to a simpler time. Laughing is one of the best medicines, but even if we don’t feel like it, it’s always the right way to help someone who has to get something out of their system.
Whether they are getting older or feel a million years old because of everything that’s happened, there are things we could do to reach out to our friends in need that aren’t necessarily the usual tricks of the trade.