Here’s a call out to any busy mums reading this article.
You need to make time for yourself!
Of course, that’s easier said than done, I know. Depending on the age of your kids, you will have a lot on your plate, from school runs to swim classes, with little time for yourself at all. But it’s not impossible, and while I don’t have all of the answers, I do have some suggestions that might be helpful to you.
#1: Start saying ‘no’ to things
Saying ‘no’ isn’t easy, especially when it’s to the people you love, but if you want to make time for yourself, you really have to. So, when your partner, children, friends, and extended family members bombard you with requests for your time, try to prioritise the things you really should say ‘yes’ to, and for anything else, say ‘not today,’ or ‘maybe tomorrow,’ or even ‘no thanks, I just don’t have the time.’
#2: Make the most of your alone time
Despite the many hats you wear, there will be moments when you aren’t wearing any. It might be first thing in the morning, the last thing at night, or at any point in between when your children are otherwise engaged, and your partner is doing his own thing. Instead of wasting your time with anything that could be considered a chore, or busying yourself with things that don’t really matter, take time out to practice self-care. Read a book, catch up with your Netflix watchlist, go for a walk, pamper yourself in the bath, or do anything else that will help you to find yourself in this thing we call life.
#3: Streamline your regular activities
Think about those tasks that take up the most of your time in the day. It might be walking to and from school with the kids. It could be the mountain of household chores that you have to get on top of. If you work from home, you might have a busy schedule ahead of you. I don’t know what your situation is, but if there is any way to get your tasks done quickly and efficiently, you will have more time for yourself. So, you might ask another parent or your partner to drop the kids off at school in the morning. You might want to find ways to speed up your housework. And if you have work to do, there may be downloadable apps available to help you manage your mounting workload. Think about what you have to do then, and consider ways to streamline them.
#4: Stop being busy
Okay, we can almost imagine the incredulous look on your face, but think about it. Do you have to be busy? Could you let the household chores slide for a day? Could you take a day away from work once in a while? Could you delegate certain tasks to your partner? Sometimes, we are busy when we don’t have to be, so think about your life, and consider what you could eliminate from your day to give yourself more time to be alone with your thoughts and hobbies. We’re sure it’s not completely impossible!
Were these helpful to you? Let me know, and if you have any other tip and share your wisdom (assuming you now have the time to do so).