There is a lot of negativity online and unfortunately nearly everyone is online these days even the bullies, trolls and awful people you have encountered in real life. There are people online who’s accounts you look at, compare yourself to and then feel generally shitty about yourself for the rest of the day. It’s easy to say “don’t compare yourself” to them you are who you are but sometimes you just can’t help it.
Scrolling through your instagram and your brain is like “I should eat healthy like that”, “Why don’t I look like that?” or “That person used to bully me”. It’s hard as people get older they must realise some of their mistakes as children but when someone who made your school life horrid follows you, do you follow back? I did, I felt obliged too. I felt like I didn’t have a choice.
What I now realise is I don’t need to follow someone just because I know them, like your friends sisters dog’s instagram account, why? It is just not needed. Your accounts, whether that be instagram, twitter or Facebook is your own online space and you shouldn’t feel bad or not want to see certain people on your feed. You shouldn’t have to feel like you should follow them because they followed you.
When I changed my way of thinking I enjoy scrolling through my feed and instagram stories knowing those names and faces that bring bad memories and feelings won’t pop up.
Another thing is all the health/fitness accounts, follow them if they motivate you as they should but don’t follow them if they just make you feel bad about yourself. You need to look after yourself and your happiness. You will get there, it just takes time. Sometimes the accounts online aren’t really how their life is and you need to realise that difference. Instagram Vs Reality is a common saying for a reason. One of the most toxic accounts are the ones you follow out of curiosity in what they are doing or to talk about it with your friends is just not needed. There is no need to follow someone to not engage with them or be nice. As the wonderful Thumper said on Bambi ‘If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say nothing at all’. Same for following, follow accounts you will enjoy and engage with.
I don’t feel like I need to put this but it is a big part of our community which is a shame. DO NOT FOLLOW SOMEONE THEN UNFOLLOW IF THEY DON’T FOLLOW BACK. I easily get about 20+ followers a week but in the last 2 months my followers have gone up by about 30 followers overall. It is pointless and people can tell when you do it. The follow/unfollow game is very frowned upon and it really annoys me.
Have you had any experience with this? Do you find yourself in those love to hate follow situations? Let me know in the comments below.