Self care is a big thing at the moment and it couldn’t be more important. I’m so glad people are more and focusing on self awareness and mindfulness. Looking after yourself is so important. Since being a mum I have certainly put my needs to one side because my brain would just be 100% on Lily and what she needs. As important as it is to look after my little angel, I also need to look after myself. You would always be a much better parent when you are positive and in the right mindset.
Self care is different for everyone. You might need a self care day where you sit on the sofa while its raining with a glass of wine or a big hot chocolate and just watch Netflix. Maybe even watch a sad film because you need a good cry. It also could be getting dressed up, going on a night out and just dancing the night away. It is whatever you need it to be.
//01 Switch off
Turn off my phone and be in the moment. Constantly thinking about engagement, notifications, if I need to text or email someone back. Everything now is so go, go, go. We never get a break from the online world. It swallows us up and we could end up speaking to the same person on about 5 different apps. It’s really important, especially for sleep to switch off and have time away from screens. Read, go outside and see the world or simply just clean the house.
//02 Read more
I find it so relaxing. I used to read so much when I was younger and it makes me really sad that I don’t do it anymore. It’s very easy as an adult with all these responsibilities to put things like reading to one side and consistently forget about it.
//03 Meditation and deep breathing
I have been using the headspace app and it’s really helped me feel more centered as well as helping my breathing. My anxiety has really been playing up lately and when it’s bad I get a really tight chest and my breathing is all over the place. I’m learning to keep calm and hopefully it continues to help.
I’m sure it’s not for everyone but having a pamper night, uninterrupted, really makes me feel calm and at peace. It’s a form of self care for me as when I feel good on the inside, I feel good on the outside. For me a perfect pamper night would be face mask, a lush bath, paint my nails and a glass of wine. Perfection.
//05 Focus on how I feel and embrace it
You need to feel how you feel, whether that is anger, grief, happiness, jealousy or joy. We are all human, we feel all these things and that is okay. I will feel the negative feeling, try to brush myself off and move on to better and positive things.
//06 Speak out
If you do feel trapped or that you want some help speak to your GP, there are counsellors that go to local doctors and people you can speak to on the phone. They can offer you all sorts from stress management to CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy). You can also chat to someone online if you have relationship problems with anyone at relate.
How do you practice self care? Let me know in the comments below! I would love more things to try.